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2 Men, 1 Conversation, 1 Goal - Personal Development

S02E45 The Fallible Man Podcast

Welcome to The Fallible Man, podcast, your home for all things, man, husband and father, we provide content, help men become the men. They want to be. My name is Brent and I am the fallible man. And today's show I'm talking with businessman, husband, father, and fellow podcaster, Brian Hamilton, Brine and his wife, Tonya have are the founders and hosts of Disrupt the Everyday Podcast.

[00:00:47] Welcome to the fellow man podcast.

[00:00:50] Brine Hamilton: Brent, thanks for having me. It's a pleasure. And uh, I am excited to have this

[00:00:52] conversation.

[00:00:54] David Dowlen: I, uh, you have a very unique name, sir. I've never actually heard someone's first name.

[00:01:00] Brine Hamilton: Well, there is a story behind it, as you might imagine. I was actually, I'm actually a junior, so I'm named after my dad and on my dad's birth certificate, it was filled out for whatever reason by my great-grandmother who's Irish.

[00:01:10] And the story goes that she wrote Brian the way she said it. So it was Brine instead of Brian.

[00:01:17] David Dowlen: Well, that's a good, that's a good story. I like that. It's a good explanation. Yeah. I, I read it and I had to read it a couple of times. Like, am I reading this right? Was that a typo? Uh, so I feel better now. I was like, Hmm, I'm going to screw that up sometime in this episode.

[00:01:32] Brine Hamilton: Well, for us not discussing it beforehand, you nailed it.

[00:01:37] David Dowlen: Oh, that was a better start than some of my shows. So, Brine, uh, I appreciate you taking the time to be on the show today, reaching out to us on vacation. That's a, that's a lot of dedication, uh, but you know, I, I don't read accolades. I, I get a little chance to research you guys before the show, before you're on my show and see what you're doing.

[00:01:57] And, and one of the coolest things about podcasting as you know, is I get to meet a lot of really interesting people, but our guests never really, truly, I mean, I can read accolades all day and it just doesn't click. Right. So who is Brine Hamilton?

[00:02:14] Brine Hamilton: All right. Well, Brine Hamilton is a husband and father of four.

[00:02:18] Uh, my wife, Tonya, and I just celebrated 14 years of marriage, uh, actually last week. So, uh, exciting time for us. Uh, also, uh, aside from that, uh, in terms of my work life, I am a system engineer with Amico software, and I'm going to go with a company that focuses on incident reporting software. So we serve the law enforcement community, public safety, and my background prior to that was 15 years in the security and.

[00:02:40] Primarily in the healthcare space. Uh, I'm also a podcaster. So I do host, uh, three podcasts as the, after mentioned, disrupt the everyday podcast, the health care security cast and the proactive security podcast. And also I serve as the president elect of the international association for healthcare security and safety, which is a, it's an industry association that focuses again on healthcare security.

[00:03:03] So that's been a passion for me for a long time and it's, uh, it's, it's, it gives me an opportunity to really contribute to my industry. So I've really been enjoying that role. Um, and I guess if you want to talk about accolades, uh, last year in 2020, I was named to the Canadian security magazine's top 10 under 40.

[00:03:19] So, uh, that's, that's me, in a nutshell, a husband and father of four is a, you know, the, obviously the reason why I'm on here, man, father, husband, and you know, that, that kind of sums up who I am in a nutshell. And I'm just, again, excited to have this conversation with.

[00:03:33] David Dowlen: So, this is where I teach you about the cookie cutter answer, because on your podcast, you'd eat somebody alive for that, that, that was like straight off your bio man, but who, who is Brine?

[00:03:44] You meant, I appreciate one of the things you brought up when we were talking, uh, setting this up was you emphasize husband and father and man working on personal development. Right. Uh, which of course caught my attention because that definitely feeds to my audience. Um, as you've been on this discovery.

[00:04:04] Right. And, and I don't want to get too far ahead of myself cause I'm going to, if I just wonder here, that's why I take notes. But, uh, so let's roll into that too. Tell me where you are. Because like I said, I read your bio, but tell me where you were. What drove you to change? You said you didn't really get into personal development until you were 30 and you wish you had started.

[00:04:24] Brine Hamilton: Yeah. So I guess, you know what, I'll go back to, you know, I told you who I am, I'll tell you who I was 16 years ago. So when I was 23 years old, at that time, I found myself in a position where I was actually, you know, in a bad financial state, I was bankrupt. I just went through a divorce. And, you know, there was one point where I actually contemplated taking my life.

[00:04:42] I remember I was driving home from work. It was on the highway. You know, it was just one of those times where, you know, I felt like I'd hit rock bottom. Uh, and you know, I was just like, I could, I could end this all right. Now it was like, I could end this all, you know, it looked like an accident and, you know, no one has to see or hear from me again.

[00:04:58] And I'm kind of out of this rut that I'm in, but for whatever reason, I decided, you know what, no, I've just got to, I've got to make a change. I've got to make things better. So, you know, I just, I started on the journey then of just trying to grow in my career. I was already working in the security industry.

[00:05:13] I started taking on more roles. I eventually met Tonya who's my wife now. And you know, from the moment I met her again, it's going to sound weird because I had just went through a, through a divorce, not too long before, but I knew that she was a person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. So for us to be able to get married again, I was bankrupt at this time.

[00:05:31] So there wasn't a, I didn't have credit. I started working a second job and eventually a third job. So I was working two full-time jobs into part-time jobs so that we didn't have to go into debt for our wedding. We were married within two years of our first date. And then from there, uh, the, the job that was actually my third job at the time was as a, as a security professional at a hospital in downtown Toronto.

[00:05:53] So I started working there. I very quickly got up to the point where I was a, we called it a charge officer, which is essentially the equivalent of a shift lead. I was working night shifts and my goal was always to get into, uh, get into policing. Uh, but you know, looking at it, I realized it wasn't really the life for me.

[00:06:11] And then once I had my first. I realized the night shifts that I had been doing for a couple of years at that point were, were tough. And I wasn't going to be able to do that. Long-term so I was like, you know what, edit focus on management. I'm going to focus on growing in this industry. And, you know, by that time, when my son was born, I was 27 years old.

[00:06:30] So again, I started working on myself, but it was really, I was just, I wasn't doing a lot of the things that I do now. I was just trying to just figure things out by following the work path. Like I was, I just tried to be really good at my job and hope that would lead to the next thing, but it, you know, it took me, it took me into my thirties and having, you know, having a set of twins after my son too, to really realize, okay, I'm going to have to take this more seriously.

[00:06:52] And I'm going to have to find other ways to actually grow in my career. So that was, that was kind of what led to the change for me. I started doing a lot of different things, which I'm sure we'll probably get into as we have this discussion. But, uh, yeah, when I just realized that what I was doing wasn't enough, I was like, okay, I'm going to need to do more.

[00:07:10] We'll we'll kind of go down there. We'll go down that rabbit trail. I'm sure. But I, I, you, you probably have some follow-ups just based on what I said,